تعريف الحب الحقيقي من بروفيسورة أمريكية سندي هازان استخدمها الإمام أحمد الحسن ع في سوال حول الحب الحقيقي
Definition of true love from a Cynthia Hazan, US-based Professor, which was referenced in an answer from Imam Ahmed Al Hasan (as) when asked about true love.
What is love? – In reality it does not extend beyond liking someone’s face or their appearance, or someone’s conduct and words, most of which are not genuine, but artificial and far from the genuineness of the woman or man’s true personality. You should know that mere pleasure from certain aspects of her appearance is not genuine. Look at the external reality – I do not wish to say more than what the external reality says, and what research and deep studies have said about the external reality.
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Research and deep studies – That which is known as love and a love relationship between a woman and a man ends shortly after marriage or after cohabitation, as occurs in the West today. Perhaps at the best of times, it does not exceed a few years, whilst real love cannot end even after several years, in fact, even after death and leaving this world.
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Real love – The one which continues living and which remains, is love of Allah Glorified and Most High, since it is connected to the Living the One who remains. So every type of love that is connected to that genuine love will remain alive due to that genuine love remaining alive. So if the reason for loving a woman or loving a husband is for the sake of Allah and Allah’s obedience, and to get close to Allah in obedience to Him, it will be a living and a genuine love. This is because it is gushing from the love of Allah. Other than Allah Glorified and Most High, who else has all the people’s hearts in His hand, such that He can change them as He wishes? For He is the One who is able to extend life between the spouses, building on His own love, be He Glorified and Most High.
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Love relations – As for the relationships which are called love relations that can happen outside a marriage contract and marriage ceremony, in reality they often result in a woman losing her respect, her decency and her chastity. So decent and respectful believing women should avoid doing this and focus their feelings and their love at a believing and pious individual who they can marry via a legal contract.
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Research and investigative studies from social scientists – Those relations that are called love and occur before the marriage contract: Professor Cynthia Hazan at Cornell University, NY, initiated started an investigative study in an experiment on 5000 men and women from 37 different cultures around the modern and primitive world, and the study collected personal and biological experiments to measure the level of love between two lovers. The result was as follows: (there is no such love that can continue throughout your life, since the studies affirmed that love only survives for a maximum of 4 years, after which it ends) Cynthia Hazan profile https://www.human.cornell.edu/people/ch34
