This beautiful post was published on the Facebook page of the IHELRS and the advice was extracted from one of the answers from Syed Ahmed Al Hasan (as)
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What are the problems that can face a couple? With solutions.
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The problem of each of the spouses: generally speaking there are problems that face each of the spouses in the beginning of their life together, which is the difficulty for a man or woman to understand that they are dealing with a human being, albeit it similar to them from one perspective, yet they are completely different from another perspective.
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Reason for the problem: each of them has a different physical make up and different hormonal secretions at different times, hence, the effect and response will be different, aswell as each of them has been brought up in a different environment and in a different way: perhaps they were exposed to harsh conditions that affected them psychologically. Marriage is totally like the mixing of two different elements in a single vessel, it may need time for them to reciprocate and for affinity to develop.
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Solution for the problem: certainly, there are positive and good matters in the wife that informed the decision to marry her, initially. He should try to start afresh from this point, and as a result, delaying any decision to separate from her will never have a negative result. Women are emotional and in general, talking in a good and beautiful way will influence them, deeply. Hence, he should try to foster such a relationship to succeed and be productive and to stop making accusations of greed, and such like.
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What have you seen from your own experiences or your studies about the best way to live a happy married life?
